"Over the years I have observed that beauty, like happiness, is frequent. Not a day goes by in which we are not, for an instant, in paradise," wrote Jorge Luis Borges in the preface to his last book of poems, Los Conjurados, a year before his death. It probably took him a lifetime to reach this conclusion: realizing that it is possible to be happy despite the circumstances.
Years earlier, after the death of his beloved mother, Borges wrote the poem El Remordimiento (La Moneda de Hierro, Buenos Aires, Emecé, 1976), in which he accuses himself of having committed the worst sin: not having been happy. It is evident that a man would not feel happy at the death of his beloved mother. Borges had a very close relationship with his mother, Leonor Rita Acevedo Suárez de Borges. She was not only his mother but also his constant companion, assistant, and secretary for much of his life. The deep connection between them made her loss a devastating blow for Borges, reflected in his work and his feelings of remorse.
How to Be Happy: A Reflection
Happiness, according to Borges, is a matter of perspective and personal choice. Let's explore how happiness can be found, using El Remordimiento as a counterpoint in our argument.
1. Recognizing Beauty in the Everyday
Borges suggests that beauty and happiness are present in our daily lives, though they often go unnoticed. By training our minds to appreciate small moments of joy and beauty, we can cultivate a more positive and grateful attitude.
2. Accepting Circumstances
Borges' life was marked by losses and difficulties, but his ability to find beauty in the everyday shows an acceptance of circumstances. Accepting what we cannot change and focusing on what we can control is fundamental to a happy life.
3. Reflecting and Learning from the Past
In El Remordimiento, Borges expresses deep sadness for not having been happy. This feeling can serve as a lesson for us: reflecting on our past experiences and learning from them allows us to make more conscious decisions oriented towards happiness in the present.
4. Valuing Close Relationships
Borges' relationship with his mother was central to his life. Valuing and nurturing our closest relationships can be a significant source of happiness. Emotional support and human connection are fundamental to our well-being. The connection one creates with close relationships should be expansive, extending and enriching other areas of our lives and the lives of others.
5. Living in the Present
Finally, Borges teaches us the importance of living in the present. Happiness is not a final destination but a series of moments lived here and now. By focusing on the present and enjoying the small pleasures of life, we can find more lasting happiness.
Paraphrasing Borges, one will be happy if one dares to fully engage in the risky and beautiful game of life, enjoying the earth, water, air, and fire.
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